Dealing with a loved one’s extreme clutter can cause a lot of emotion, friction and tension, as a result.
Unfortunately, the loved one may not recognise the severity of their problem and therefore, when you try to help them, they may feel targeted and reluctant to engage, and you become at a loss of how to help.
To you, their stuff is junk, and should be easy to chuck out, to them, they want themselves and their stuff to be respected because the anxiety often lies in the decisions making and the struggle that comes with letting things go.
There are things you can do that will help you through this time. For example, seeking support to help you understand extreme clutter/hoarding tendencies along with coping strategies that will help you better relate or differently, to your loved one.
Also, change your expectations and focus on getting rid of ‘stuff’ and approach them with concerns about their safety, i.e. trip hazards, the allergens they could be breathing in. Most of all, be non-judgmental and understand that there is no quick fix, it will take time.
When you gain knowledge about a problem or issue, it leads to understanding, and understanding then leads to compassion – we all need compassion and kindness, no matter what the condition.
If this is something that you are dealing with and you want to talk it through, don’t hesitate to contact A Place of Calm – Professional Organisers here.